Indelicate? Me?

When I was growing up, I was fairly soft spoken. OK, maybe that’s not accurate. I was shy. OK, well, maybe I was afraid to be my loud inner-self? None of this is quite right. Let’s start over. Won’t Someone Please Think of the Ants?! One sunny afternoon, in my backyard, around 5 years of… Continue reading Indelicate? Me?

Living a Life without Belief

On this Easter Sunday, I wanted to start a conversation about something I have been thinking about for years. It all started with the movie Dogma, in which the thirteenth apostle, Rufus, says “I think it’s better to have ideas. You can change an idea. Changing a belief is trickier…” I thought, Hmmm… What would… Continue reading Living a Life without Belief

Am I Setting Goals Correctly?

I had a fascinating experience over the last two weeks. After speaking with my coach, I set a goal of writing every day for the two weeks between our calls. We agreed I would give it a shot and then we’d debrief. I’ll give you two guesses how much I wrote over the last two… Continue reading Am I Setting Goals Correctly?

“Good Enough” Responsibility

What is “good enough” responsibility? Last week, I was relaying a story about a discussion with my students around decision-making and responsibility. I asked them to define “responsibility.” I jotted down some of their thoughts: in charge of some action or choice taking ownership taking control of own actions reflecting on and/or understanding your self… Continue reading “Good Enough” Responsibility

Spiritual Truth: You’re an Asshole

It's better that you just accept it now -- you're not a nice person. You constantly judge people, are myopic in your approach to situations, and regularly see yourself as a victim. Just admit it -- you're an asshole. I had a great conversation with my students on Monday around Pathos and “Good Enough” responsibility.… Continue reading Spiritual Truth: You’re an Asshole

Are You the Subject or the Object? (The difference is spirit.)

On this momentous International Women’s Day, with protests happening all over the world surrounding reproductive rights, the wage gap, and systemic misogyny, I wanted to post about something I have been thinking about off-and-on for a while now. There is a continuing debate that sounds incredibly grammatical, but is in fact credibly philosophical, and is… Continue reading Are You the Subject or the Object? (The difference is spirit.)

What would be different? (Change is incremental)

One day a few years back, I was suggesting to my partner that I could do more of what I love if I worked less. I was convinced that if I just had more hours in the day, I would spend it all writing and creating and loving life. It was something that sounded perfectly… Continue reading What would be different? (Change is incremental)

Shifting the Ego

So, I have this technique for when I am upset about something. I ask my Ego* to shift from my head to my heart, and then from my heart to my gut. I actually FEEL it shift, and feel amazing relief. I'd like to teach you this technique, but here is the catch: I identify… Continue reading Shifting the Ego

Have You Meme-ified Your Life?

meme (n): an idea, behavior, style, or usage that spreads from person to person within a culture; a unit of cultural transmission adapted from Wikipedia and Merriam-Webster Coined by Richard Dawkins in his book The Selfish Gene, “meme” has itself become a meme, rapidly spreading through internet culture. One fascinating trait of a meme is… Continue reading Have You Meme-ified Your Life?

Aren’t I Too Young to Have a Mid-life Crisis?

It has been a fascinating last 48 hours. Yesterday, I turned 38. Thirty-eight. Three decades plus eight years. Nearly forty. Four zero. Forty. Now, normally I wouldn’t say this is a big deal -- in the past, whenever people asked me, “It’s your birthday! How do you feel?” I would always say, “One day older,”… Continue reading Aren’t I Too Young to Have a Mid-life Crisis?