WHAT’S IN A WORD?
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I just got off the phone with a client, and he told me something interesting…
We had chatted at length last week about a professional situation he was facing. By the time we got off the phone, he felt much better, but I could tell that something was still unresolved. Well, he called me today and told me what it was:
He needed a way to label his feelings, and without that label, he was struggling to move on. He had the good fortune of speaking with his sister earlier this week and she named it instantly: BETRAYAL.
I could go on at length about the emotional impact of this word. For now, I’d like to focus on why it is so powerful that my client experienced this release:
Imagine that within you is a seed. This seed may have been planted by a childhood experience, or as an unexpressed element of your nature, or from a traumatic event in adulthood. You feel its presence, perhaps in passing moments, but are almost completely unaware of what it truly is.
Now, each morning, you wake up thinking about it. Each morning, you water the seed with your attention -- not observation and awareness, but unfocused emotional attention. It sprouts, and over time, the tendrils become roots and dig deep, finding wells of emotion -- feeding, growing, impacting other areas of your life. Unexamined, under the surface, ever-present.
But what if one day, you followed a thought or emotion, an off-shoot of experience, down to the root? What if you were able to map it, find its edges, and pull it out?
After our initial conversation, my client thought he had resolved his issue, removed the root, and begun to heal. He wasn’t wrong, he just hadn’t gotten the whole thing out. But just having a word, “betrayal” -- a word that mapped to his vulnerability, to his hurt, to his confusion -- he could see it all, and remove it cleanly.
Are we always so lucky? Absolutely not. Are some experiences deeper, more wounding, more traumatic? Of course. And, vitally important to remember, when we accept our feelings, our experiences, our challenges without judgment, when we relieve our analytical burden, we free up all that energy for healing. ...
What do you do when it's 100+° out?
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Answer: Whatever you gotta, as little as possible, as much as you can, _________.
Today, I gave myself permission to take a nap, I connected with a friend (@chirosportdoc), I showed up for a contractor (asbestos, yay!), and just generally chilled out.
How do you show up for you in less than ideal circumstances?
#couragetochange #warriormindset #showupforyou #showupforyourself #mindsetreset #mindsetchange #mindsetiseverything #itsallinyourhead #nowisthetime #thetimeisnow #yougotthis #youvegotthis #selfcare
#mondaymotivation
Who inspires me?
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Meet my partner, Erin! 16 years of AWESOME. She’s seen me through three career changes, cancer, depression; she is the perfect balance of rational/discerning and tireless cheerleader; she eases my down times, amplifies my up times, and just generally rocks my world!
This woman has made my life INSANELY wonderful and I am eternally grateful.
Who inspires you?! #truelove #inspiration #inspirationalwomen #relationshipawesome #truepartnership #twowholes #healthylove #gratitude #grateful #insanelywonderful #cancersucks #depressionsucks
#socialcuratorchallenge
"Hey, Ryan, where do you work?"
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Well, my friends, usually from the couch, but when you've just moved into your mother's place while you're renovating your new townhouse, the daily workspace looks more like this: 🌪️🌪️🌪️. One thing I love about coaching is that I can do it from anywhere with a connection (phone or data) and that the whole point is to show up exactly where you're at!
P.S. I love working with my hands, so my first ever renovation isn't scary; it's fun! 😃 It helps to have an architect, a general contractor, and a former house-flipper in the family. 😆
What's your favorite part about your job or where you work?
#workcation #workhappy #workspacewednesday #renovationtime #firsttimehomebuyer
#socialcuratorchallenge
When people ask me, “What’s your favorite drink?” I tend to reply with something like, “Yes.” I mean, that’s like asking me my favorite genre of music. It’s situational, people! You wouldn’t listen to classical music and sip rosé at a nightclub, would you??? Well, maybe you would…
When the weather is getting hotter, gimme a refreshing beer like a Hazy/Juicy Northeastern-style IPA or some crisp white wine (I drink red the other 75% of the year 😄). And scotch? Well, that’s my just-about-whenever drink. Add a drop of water or a splash of soda, drop in some whisky cubes… Ahhhhhhhhh, super double plus good.
And, please, don’t forget water. Stay hydrated, y’all!
What do you do to stay refreshed on hot days?
My partner and I once inflated a kiddie pool in our apartment. 🤣 We only filled it an inch, but wow did it make a difference!
@johnniewalker @deschutesbrewery @ridgevineyards
#johnniewalker #blacklabel #deschutesbrewery #hazyipa #ridgevineyards #chardonnay
#foodie #thirstythursday #summerbeverage #wine #beer #scotch #stayhydrated
#socialcuratorchallenge
